Parenting Arrangements on the Northern Beaches: Common Questions Answered

When parents separate, one of the first and most emotionally charged questions is how children will spend time with each parent. For families on Sydney’s Northern Beaches, parenting arrangements often involve balancing children’s routines, schooling, work commitments and the practical realities of living in separate households.

This article answers some of the most common questions Northern Beaches parents ask when working through parenting arrangements after separation.

What does the law focus on when making parenting arrangements?

Under Australian family law, the best interests of the child are always the paramount consideration. This means the focus is not on what is easiest for parents, but on what best supports a child’s safety, emotional wellbeing and long-term development.

In practice, this includes considering:

• A child’s relationship with each parent

• The need to protect children from physical or psychological harm

• Stability, routine and schooling

• Each parent’s capacity to meet the child’s needs

There is no one-size-fits-all arrangement, and outcomes differ from family to family.

Do parenting arrangements have to be equal time?

No. Equal time is not automatic and is not appropriate in every case.

For Northern Beaches families, parenting arrangements often reflect:

• Children’s ages and developmental needs

• School and extracurricular schedules

• Distance between households

• Parents’ work patterns and availability

Many families adopt arrangements such as:

• Weekday and alternate weekend time

• A primary household with regular time with the other parent

• Gradual increases in time as children grow older

The focus is always on what is practical and child-focused, rather than a strict mathematical split.

Do we need to go to court to sort out parenting arrangements?

In most cases, court is not the first step.

Many Northern Beaches parents resolve parenting arrangements through:

• Informal discussions

• Mediation or Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)

• Parenting plans

• Consent orders

Court proceedings may become necessary where:

• There are safety concerns

• One parent refuses to engage

• There is a significant dispute about time or decision-making

Resolving matters cooperatively where possible often reduces stress for children and parents alike.

What is the difference between a parenting plan and consent orders?

A parenting plan is a written agreement between parents that sets out arrangements for children. It is flexible and can be changed by agreement, but it is not legally enforceable.

Consent orders are approved by the Court and are legally binding. They provide greater certainty and protection, particularly where:

• There is ongoing conflict

• Clear structure is needed

• Future disputes are a concern

Choosing the right option depends on your circumstances and the level of agreement between parents

What if one parent wants to relocate?

Relocation is a common issue for Northern Beaches families, particularly where lifestyle, work or support networks are involved.

If relocation would significantly impact the other parent’s time with the children, it usually requires:

• The other parent’s consent, or

• A court order

Early legal advice can help parents understand their options and avoid escalation.

Getting the right support matters

Parenting arrangements are not just legal documents — they shape children’s everyday lives. Having clear advice early can help reduce conflict, avoid misunderstandings and support more stable outcomes for children.

Working with a family lawyer who understands Northern Beaches families, court expectations and child-focused outcomes can make the process feel more manageable and less overwhelming.

Support for Northern Beaches parents

Wallen Family Law supports parents across Sydney’s Northern Beaches, including Warriewood, Mona Vale, Dee Why, Brookvale and Manly. With a local Warriewood office, we provide clear, compassionate guidance on parenting arrangements, whether you are negotiating informally or formalising agreements.

If you are unsure what arrangement may work best for your children, a short conversation can help clarify your options.